Ok got my dad on my side

[JetFalcon]

So finally, my dad confessed to me that he would himself be fine letting me have a motorcycle if it were not for my mom. This is the biggest step towards being allowed to have a motorcycle and not being disowned because he also said I could not have one, but for some reason he came out clean and told me that he would let me have a bike. I don't mind using my own money towards it, but money is not a concern for my dad and he could go get two new bikes no problem if it were his choice. The only reason he won't buy them is because he does not wanna deal with my mom becoming an unstable wreck constantly worrying and not able to function.

I told him I'm getting tired of my mom and the fact she pretty much never wants me to ever enjoy a motorcycle for as long as she lives. I know it's because she cares, but there are many moms that love their kids, but support them doing something they may them not rather do, like serving in military, test pilot, fire fighter, rigging, motocross or any dangerous occupation/hobby that may be the son's passion. If every mom was like my mom and all the sons/daughters obeyed, then there will be no police men, no US military, no fire fighters, no construction crew because those jobs are too dangerous for any son/daughter to do. So ya, at some point mom just gotta back off.

I just graduated college and moved back in with my parents, but it's not like I'm staying home all day playing video games and sleeping in on weekdays. I go to work at my parent's office learning the business, mostly the computer program that inputs customer's orders. And eventually it will become more stressful when I have more responsibilities and have an actual jobs to do when I get trained enough. So all I want is a motorcycle so I have something I love to ride everyday I go to work and at least get to look forward to riding my bike every morning.

But this is a big step for me that I finally got my dad to confess that he would let me ride if it were not for my mom. Because he used to be on her side and threatened to kick me out if I disobeyed. And at this one point when he was not getting along with my mom, he said if he got a divorce he would buy two motorcycles so we can go ride together. I was kind of down for the divorce and I would have supported if it had to happen because I would finally get what I wanted. I'm not a kid anymore and it wouldn't be as big of a deal to have parents divorce at age 24 vs at age 8-12.

But anyways, any guys here have any ideas how I can get my mom to accept the fact that I do want to ride motorcycles and is the one thing that would make my life more enjoyable?

[Gandalf]

Honestly? If you're living with your parents, you kinda gotta roll with what they say. If you don't like it, move out.

And please tell me I misunderstood, and you're not trying to get your parents to divorce so you can get a motorcycle. I love motorcycles, but family comes first man.

[sectorsight]

I lived at home during college too. My parents were against guns. Little did they know I had 2 shotguns, and AK47, and 2 pistols under my bed.
I moved out after college.
Then I bought a motorcycle. They still have no idea that I own a bike or guns. I just don't tell them.

Move out and ride on your own time. Family comes first when you live under their roof, but what they don't know won't hurt them. I guess living 500 miles away from my family makes it a bit easier.

[Dodsfall]

The first step should be checking the classifieds for an affordable apartment or house to rent with garage space.

[ReconLdr]

Originally Posted by Dodsfall

The first step should be checking the classifieds for an affordable apartment or house to rent with garage space.

This^^^^^^^.

[ithelper]

Originally Posted by Dodsfall

The first step should be checking the classifieds for an affordable apartment or house to rent with garage space.

I agree 100%. If someone doesn't want to live by parental rules, they must bite the bullet and get out on their own.

[SpitefulHam]

Hoping your parents get a divorce so you can get a bike sooner? Dude, get bent. Either live under your parents roof and follow their rules or move out and do wtf you want, but wishing ill-will on your parents so you can get what you want is screwed up. It would be poetic justice for your mom to see this post and kick your tail out.

EDIT: Reading this thread reminded me of this clip...

You Tube

[JetFalcon]

Originally Posted by Gandalf

Honestly? If you're living with your parents, you kinda gotta roll with what they say. If you don't like it, move out.

And please tell me I misunderstood, and you're not trying to get your parents to divorce so you can get a motorcycle. I love motorcycles, but family comes first man.

Well, I don't have enough of my own money so I'm saving that up so that can be a practical option later. I don't want to get myself into debt just because I wanna move out. I don't need to get away from my parents, but I just want my mom to eventually become more acceptable to the idea of me riding motorcycles. My dad is fine and supports it, he's just too scared to take the plunge because of my mom.

Also I'm working at my dad's company so I would wanna drive that thing to work and that's where my mom works too. That did made me wonder if say under the conditions I have my own place, could my mom get into legal trouble if she kept harassing me at work about the motorcycle and wanted me to get fired in order to punish me? But I'm getting a pay check and it really is my money.

I'm not saying I will wanna get them divorced, but I will support it if it's for the best. Right now they're fine and getting along, but it can happen again and maybe the whole getting divorced thing may come up again. Plus I thought divorce in this USA country was common and more acceptable as long as there is no domestic violence involved.

[Dodsfall]

Originally Posted by JetFalcon

.... maybe the whole getting divorced thing may come up again.

One can always hope, I guess...

[spacejunkiehsv]

I'm a little amazed at the display of selfishness shown in this thread. I suppose having a fleeting thought of your parents divorcing and you getting what you want as a result MIGHT be an uncontrollable thing (like a weird dream), but to think about it enough to actually type it out seems a little like you have very poor morals or are blinded by your selfishness. Either way, that's not good. It seems that you took advantage of your dad at a week moment. You should work on that and try to not take advantage of your parents. I assume they love you.

I think you should drop the issue until you are moved out, and not just with your dad if he does split from your mom. This issue is VERY likely causing increased friction between your parents, that you don't know about. Get your own THING started. Then do what you want.

I really do think you should try and look at what you have written in this thread from a third-person prospective. Then you will see what I'm calling selfishness. Sadly, I am selfish at my core and have to keep myself in check. That's how I know it when I see it.

[Gereke]

Starting to wonder if JetFalcon's family business is selling fishing equipment.

[Dodsfall]

Originally Posted by Gereke

Starting to wonder if JetFalcon's family business is selling fishing equipment.

Maybe boats.

[Gereke]

[marcn]

Didn't know you could graduate college at 12, will wonders never cease!

[kamesama980]

As mentioned, follow the rules of the household. Generally mom makes the rules. there's a saying: "If momma ain't happy, nobody's happy". I dealt with it: moved out for a year in college then back in, out with GF that turned out to be insane and back in, now out again (hopefully for good) with much better wife.

On the same note, my father in law rode many a bike years ago and gave it up when the family came along. After I got my first bike, he got the itch and got one in spite of his wife's anger/threats/yelling. She calmed down after a while and is fine with it.

Yes, divorce happens here. I wouldn't say it's common and certainly not normal. I know more people NOT divorced than divorced though. more like some people setting the curve. take a stats class and tell me you can't make things sound any way you want.

As for mom bringing family (motorcycles) issues to work and firing/discrediting you over it... if that's a concern, I wouldn't want to work there. Bad things happen when you mix family and business...or friends and business.

[BioInclined]

You're selfish.
Earn it and get your priorities right. Maybe get a job you can use you degree on(assuming you are not now)
Do you have any history of wanting one? Just a random idea?
Maybe act like a grown up and go take the MSF course in your free time. It takes one weekend. It's your right, and you are not buying a motorcycle, not borrowing one, not any of the hassle to come with it. Make sure it suits you first and it's all you think it is cracked up to be.
On a more personal note, my parents are divorced(I'm not the only one here I'm sure) and it happened when I was 13-14 years old. It sucked and I had to mature fast since my mom was not worth much to me at that point. Meaning I lived essentially on my own, yea she paid bills and I always respected that.
Now I'm 24 and live in an apartment on my college campus. My parents do not know about my bike because I don't feel like telling them yet. I plan too soon, but it's only because I may end up living at "home" within the next year and I just feel it is a matter of respect. The worst phone call they could get would be that I was in a MC accident, at any level. I ride everyday and enjoy it, I ride everyday as safe as I can partially for that reason.

It's not about your life, your parents have given you one...respect that.
I'll also assume you don't have any tuition loans to pay, if they helped you out there, may want to appreciate them a bit more. I know I do for mine.

[Squally]

Originally Posted by JetFalcon

I'm not saying I will wanna get them divorced, but I will support it if it's for the best. Right now they're fine and getting along, but it can happen again and maybe the whole getting divorced thing may come up again. Plus I thought divorce in this USA country was common and more acceptable as long as there is no domestic violence involved.

Jet, you're not just a TOOL...you're the whole TOOL BOX. I was so happy when you hadn't posted on here in awhile. I assumed you finally realized that a motorcycle forum was not the place for your self-centered, childish posts about your mommy-daddy drama

You're 23 years old...Maybe someday when you're 40ish your folks will finally get a divorce, and then you'll be allowed to get a motorcycle (fingers crossed for you, bro).

You really need to sack up and get yourself a roommate and place of your own.

But there's no point in telling you that for the 1,456th time. You don't listen, you're either too comfortable sucking on your mom's teet, or you're too scared to strike out on your own. Either way, it's pretty pathetic.

[paula]

Tool Box lol

[Gereke]

Any chance we can get his user name changed to "Stanley The Troll"?

[BioInclined]

Originally Posted by Gereke

Any chance we can get his user name changed to "Stanley The Troll"?

This isn't trolling, it's embarrassing. If he thinks he is he sucks at it.

[Squally]

I saw this, and had to post it here

[Gereke]

Originally Posted by BioInclined

This isn't trolling, it's embarrassing. If he thinks he is he sucks at it.

He's been getting all kinds of responses from people (including me) about his situation, so I can't say that he's a failure if all he's doing is trying to get a rise out of people.

If he's not, it's probably best that he gets heckled and cajoled into head exploding or leaving on his own accord. If he can't get this mommy issue figured out, he doesn't need to be riding motorcycles. Shows he doesn't have a lick of common sense.

[Landarchstud]

I can't believe what I just read... I didn't think someone the age of 23 would still be saying "I'd even be fine using my money." Well no ****. You'd be fine having your daddy buy you a bike? The fun of it is having that ****ty first bike in my opinion.

I haven't been on here since April, I can't believe you're still dealing with this ****. At least you're persistent.

[V8Thrasher]

You're still on here whining like a little bi**h jet falcon?? I thought you grew a pair when you landed a job.

[Biker Dash]

[Castle81]

"Look around little brother, can you tell me what you see?
You're a big boy now, so take responsibility.
You never had it hard, but now it's getting tough,
so you whine, whine, whine and you say you've had enough.
You say I'm full of ****, that I'm a hypocrite
I shouldn't talk, when I can't take the advice that I give?
Well maybe you're right, but open your eyes:
the main difference here is that I try, try, try."

- Catch 22

One day Jet, one day life is gonna kick you square in the balls and you're so sorely unprepared for it, I honestly pity you.

You've said before that your petulance is merely an "act" you use to get attention. And yet, the need for such an act validates the "act" as a true reflection of yourself. Amazing. For the second time in my life, i get to see God beat the **** out of someone with their own irony. Just sad.

[paula]

i think he was saying other foolish stuff in another post last month also lol

[Gandalf]

Not to question the powers that be, but I can't help wondering why he's still a member lol

[marcn]

He's just jerking everyone around to see what kind of rise he gets, he's bored.